When Asher joined the In the Lead program at Discovering Choices in Bowness at age 16, he was new to the city, new to his school, and trying to find his place while navigating an autism diagnosis and social anxiety. Being truly seen felt out of reach. But with the right support, Asher began to discover what others already saw in him: creativity, kindness, intelligence, and extraordinary potential.
In the Lead gave Asher a steady place to belong, be encouraged, and participate at his own pace. Through volunteer opportunities with Community Kitchen and the Calgary Seed Library, he learned that his ideas, effort, and presence mattered. He also built a one-to-one coaching relationship with Melody, an In the Lead staff member who became a trusted person in his corner.
At first, Asher was very quiet and found eye contact difficult. Melody showed up with patience, consistency, and care, while his peers in the program helped him feel safe to be himself. Slowly, trust grew. Brief check-ins became sushi lunches that now last for hours, filled with conversation, laughter, and the ease of being known.
Asher’s confidence grew. He returned for additional semesters and became a leader in the group, helping peers understand the program, modelling strong participation, and encouraging others facing similar challenges. Today, he volunteers to help neurodiverse youth learn to ski, is thriving academically, and is preparing for university with greater belief in his voice, abilities, and future.
Recently, Asher and Melody took city transit together so he could practise a skill he felt anxious about but knew he would need for university. It was more than a transit ride—it was a picture of transformation. Because of programs like In the Lead, young people like Asher gain the confidence, relationships, and practical skills they need to move forward with independence, courage, and hope.